Wow from the title above this is serious.
I originally started this post the day after my first date with Jake, and needless to say I never got around to finishing it or publishing it.
About a month before I met Jake I had my fair share of ups and downs, in the dating world.
I had come to find out what I wanted in a man and things I didn't.
Here are a few things I wanted my future man to know:
I want him to be able to bring me from 0 to 100 and back to 0 in a few simple words.
I want that spark when touching him to always be there.
I want to stay up and talk all night, and not worry about how I am going to feel the next day - better yet, do that and still feel amazing the next day.
I want a man that thinks I am so incredible he never wants to leave.
I want a man that opens the door for me.
I want a man that asks me questions, to always get to know me better.
I want a man that will love me for me.
I want a man that is weird like I am, and I want our weirdness to come together and fall in love.
I want a man that can guide me spiritually.
I want a man that will lead me.
I want a man that will teach me.
I want a man that wants to please me.
I want a man that will lift me up and encourage me.
I want a man that will keep me on my toes intellectually.
I want a man that is ALWAYS on time, and feels the same way I do: early is on time, and on time is late.
I want a man that will stand up to me and tell me no, in a way that makes me want to do what he says.
I want a man that sees my inner beauty, not my physical appearance.
I want a man that can appreciate nice things.
I want a man that takes care of himself physically, meaning keeps his hair trimmed, nails groomed, and is over all hygienic.
Here are a few things I didn't want in my future man:
A man that doesn't know how to dress.
A man that doesn't appreciate nice things.
A man that wants more then 2 children.
A man that drives a crappy car.
A man that uses foul language.
A man that is not hygienic.
A man that feels he always has to be right.
A man that is more worried about pleasing himself then me.
A man that is simple minded.
A man that doesn't appreciate boundaries.
Like I said in the beginning this is a list of a FEW things I wanted and didn't want in a man.
I had a crazy few weeks right before I met Jake and it truly changed my opinion of men, and not for the good. After all of that I found out what my heart really desired.
I have to admit Jake had a lot of walls to break down, but I am happy he was able to break them down, and we are in the most amazing place now.
I can honestly say that Jake truly checks off all of my wants and don't wants, except for one.
The one thing we are both working towards, is becoming closer to God as a couple. I know that in time we will be a couple before God, and have his blessing.
Even though Jake checks off all of my wants and don't wants, I have realized that checking off a list, is not what it is about.
Granted I think it is important to know what you want and don't want, however I now know that love isn't about that. It is about compromise and loving unconditionally.
Jake is truly the man of my dreams, and I am so thankful that I found him. He is exactly what I had always wanted, even before I knew it.
